Introduction
- In this confusing world, people tend to get sway by various emotions and situations. As a result, they fell into depression, sometimes getting controlled by others. Even when acting out of goodness, they still feel being used or even abused.
- The question is, "How do we save ourselves in these situations?". Alpha Speech suggests seven practices that enable you to become mentally dominant. The idea is not to rule over others, but to not let others overstepped your boundaries. While this is an act of dominance, the intention is to protect yourself.
The Seven Habits
1. Control Your Emotions Regardless of any Situations
The loudest ones in the room are usually the weakest
- Be silent, still understand your emotions. When faced with situations, most people will respond to those negatively, leaving themselves vulnerable to taunts. Stop responding to taunts, calm yourself. Suddenly, the other side will feel uncomfortable because they are unable to control you.
- To control your own emotions, be aware, understand and see through it as Kru Ngor describes it in Inner Makeover classroom.
2. Stop Seeking Recognition
Those who seek recognition are the ones who are giving authority and power to others. While the ones who don't have all the power they needed.
- Most people fear of their image. They scared of not getting accepted. As a result, they try to make excuses to save face. This lead to gossiping and forceful questions.
- On the other hand, those who do not seek recognition have a stable standing point. As a result, they are able to direct their focus towards other important things in life such as self development.
3. Don't respond immediately but respond at a right moment.
- Responding towards insults and taunts immediately lead to exposing your own weaknesses. Don't respond, listen, collect information so that you can respond logically at a correct time. This is fully related to the first habit: To Control Your Own Emotions
Don't try to win the short game, aim for the long game
4. Stop trying to win against others
- Instead of comparing to others, focus on yourself. Let the results speak for themselves. The ones who don't try to win against others are usually the most stable. Be disciplined and consistent on focusing on your life quietly.
5. Cut people off without any fear
- When people got into a toxic argument, they spend a lot of energy on it. Only because they too scared of being left out. But by allowing yourself to cut people off fearlessly, you are setting yourself boundaries. Cutting others off doesn't come with grand announcements, it just happens quietly, instantaneously and without any hesitation.
6. Don't reveal everything about yourself
- The more people know about you, the more they are able to control you. Keep your distance. Set your own boundaries. Tell others that your area is private and not everyone deserves to know. This is not about lying or hiding. It is about protecting yourself from others and making yourself harder to get in touch.
Humans value things that come hard to them. Don't make yourself easy
7. Don't be afraid to be alone
- According to Kru Ngor, humans scared of three things
- Fear of Getting Hurt
- Fear of Insecurity
- Fear of not being a part of society
- Does who are not afraid to be alone are able to walk out of any group without hesitation. It is about proving to yourself that you are able to stand on your own two feet. When others realize this, they be the one who is scared of losing you instead.
References
- Alpha Speech (Feb, 1, 2026), ถ้าคุณมี 7 นิสัยนี้ คุณคือคนที่น่ากลัวที่สุด! ไม่มีใครกล้าล้ำเส้น, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yimdAB929Pc
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